The Basics on Being Transgender and Gender Identity

It seems that as time goes on, the common understanding of what it means to be transgender is actually getting worse, not better, thanks largely to SJWs, 3rd Wavers, and well-meaning leftists in general.  I probably don’t need to explain the common narrative that all trans people are helpless victims that need constant care and attention, diaper pins, and safe spaces.  The left has done a fantastic job at making it seem like all trans people are suffering a mental disorder.  More and more people are starting to think that now.

For that reason, I wanted to give a breakdown on this topic, that would also help answer some of the concerns of folks like Ben Shapiro.  Make no mistake – I’m a fan of the guy!  He’s no-nonsense, hard hitting, and slams social narratives with a rapid fire of facts and evidence.  But Ben raised some points regarding transgenderism in a recent video, where it seems he had not taken time to fully understand the issue – which in all fairness is, hard to do with the ocean of misinformation that we have going now.

Here’s the video, and you might have seen it before.  It deserves to be featured clearly, rather than just given a hyperlink.

You can keep reading for now, but later we’ll go over the points in the video brought up about transgenderism.

Gender roles and identities are sets of behavior and expectations that generally belong to one of two groups: either male or female. The source of gender roles are found in early survival behavior of humans; women give birth because men can’t, and men hunt for food since women can’t (due to time spent giving birth). As we’ve recently discovered, this has also given rise to unique psychological development corresponding with either set of gender roles that might not match a person’s biology – and hence, being transgender.

Think about it.  For tens of thousands of years, human and proto-human men and women had to survive this way.  We are a sexually dimorphic species.  How difficult is it to conceive that our brains would also work differently?  There are certainly differences in how we use them.

Contrary to popular belief, the concept of gender is absolutely rooted in biology (that’s literally where it comes from – without it, there would have been no development of gender roles). There are many ways a person can identify, but there are only two genders.  Hold on because this gets reallyyyyyy… not-complicated.

Male — refers to the identity, roles, and sets of expectations generally assigned to people born with a penis.

Female — refers to the identity, roles, and sets of expectations generally assigned to people born with a vagina.

Transgender — a person whose psychological development does not match their biology, who begins living as the opposite gender. This situation must be verified via medical diagnosis (you cannot self-diagnose). Once diagnosed, a series of medical and legal procedures are undertaken before the person’s ID is changed. Once changed, the person is either MALE OR FEMALE – “transgender” itself is not a gender. It merely refers to a person who has made the transition.

This is the result of evolution, not patriarchy.

Are there other ways to identify? Of course. For example:

I’m an American. I’m a Republican. I’m slightly conservative. I’m someone’s sister (hi Jen!) I’m someone’s niece (hi Cheryl!) I’m a mental health specialist. I’m an athlete. I’m an atheist. I’m a researcher.  I’m an egalitarian.  I’m a writer.

I identify as all these things, and I wear many hats throughout the day. However, none of these are *GENDERS*! I can identify as nearly anything, real or unreal, but only “male” and “female” are genders, and gender absolutely is real.

What do transgender people need from you? Here’s a list.  Get ready because this is even more not-complicated.

1. We need you to use the correct pronouns. This means “he” or “she”.

2. ……………. that’s pretty much it. There’s nothing else a trans person needs from you that any other person wouldn’t want. Just treat us with the same basic civility you would as anyone else, and then let us live our lives. If trans people are not bothering you, don’t bother them.

If a trans person is being a jerk, handle them the way you would any other jerk. If they’re being considerate, thank them the way you would anyone else being considerate. If you wouldn’t bring gender up with anyone else, don’t bring it up in those situations either.  Personally, if a trans person tries making an issue about their gender, when the issue at hand has absolutely nothing to do with their gender, I usually disregard what they say and move on.  Turn gender into an excuse for something unrelated, and I’ll treat it the same way I do any other excuse that’s unrelated.  (As you can guess, I’m not very well liked among most trans people.)

Now with that out of the way, lets address directly address some of Ben’s points.

@ 00:35 in the video:
>> “A boy who thinks he’s a girl (isn’t a girl)”

^^^ Ben is correct.  As stated previously, being trans requires a medical diagnosis.  You can’t just throw on a dress and say you’re a girl, then go into the women’s locker room.  It doesn’t work that way.  Transitioning to the opposite gender is a long and enduring process, and the end result is getting your ID changed so the M becomes and F, or vice versa.

@ 01:15 in the video:
>> “you’re going to dictate to me that I’m supposed to pretend that men are women, or women are men…”

^^^ As we covered, it is a medical reality that a person’s psychology does not always align with their gender.  This is a very rare thing that happens, but it DOES happen, and it is a fact!  What Ben is probably talking about here are the extremely annoying tumblr 3rd Wave feminists who make this topic so damn difficult by turning gender into a fashion choice.  “Men can wear dresses!  Isn’t that cool?  Now you have to respect them as women!!” <– this type of thing makes it so much harder for people like myself, who are actually trans, who have received a medical diagnosis, and whose lives have been tremendously improved by living as the opposite gender.

As I’ve said in other posts, a real quick and easy way to tell the man-in-a-dress from an actual trans person is just to see their ID.  Just say you’re curious and would like to see it.  If a trans person gets offended over that, tell them to stop being a snowflake – you have to show your ID anytime you purchase beer or cigarettes anyway.  (And as a side note: If you don’t have the ID yet, then you can’t use the other bathroom yet, because you haven’t finished the process.)

@ 01:35 in the video:
>> “You have to be a boy to be a Boy Scout”.

^^^ Ben is correct again.  If you are under the age of 18, you SHOULD NOT be allowed to transition.  You can see a complete set of reasons on this here: .

Now this doesn’t mean a boy can’t, or shouldn’t, be allowed to explore gender.  I wouldn’t mind at all if my son wants to try on a dress, wear pink, or play with dolls.  There’s absolutely no harm in doing this, and the only thing it will lead to is him becoming *more* confident in his identity, not less.  After all, you’re not afraid of your daughter becoming a man because she played with Lego’s or wore the colour blue.  But at no point should children be given hormone treatments or surgeries, and you can see a statement on this here from the American College of Pediatricians.  As such, you do have to be a BOY to be in the Boy Scouts.  You can’t transition that young, sorry.

@ 02:22 in the video:
>> “I’ll ask you how old you ar
e.  (She says 22.)  Okay, why aren’t you 60?”

^^^ If you’ve been following along so far, are you able to explain why this is different from gender?

Moreover, consider that I actually *have* met people who were 19 years old, who definitely had the maturity and level of responsibility of a 30 year old.  I’ve also met 40 year olds who acted like they were 14.  I also work in a mental health facility where I treat individuals who are nearly 50 years old, who have the cognitive development of an 8 year old, and will never develop any further.  I might even say they could “identify” as an 8 year old, given the development of their brain (precisely the thing that makes a person cis or trans).  Our facility is paid money by the state and federal government to subsidize the treatment of these individuals… who are in their 40s, but have the minds of children.  So this isn’t a strong argument even on it’s own.

@ 03:15 in the video:
>> “Just because things are okay legally does not make them okay biologically” (and then references the sterilization of the mentally ill)

^^^ Absolutely correct.  That’s why I always invite these discussions, and why I’m all for the freedom of speech.  I don’t need a safe space or an echo-chamber, so lets go ahead and talk about it.

Transgenderism isn’t right because it’s legal, it’s right because it is an evidence based treatment that greatly reduces the suffering in those afflicted with gender disphoria – and THAT’S why it’s legal.

@ 03:35 in the video – and here comes the big one:

>> “The idea of the transgender movement is that all of their problems would go away if I would pretend that they are the sex to which they claim . . . that’s nonsense.  The transgender suicide rate is 40%”. (Ben then goes on to state that the cis-gender suicide rate is 4%, and that “bullying” does not explain this difference, especially in areas of Europe where transgender people are widely accepted).

^^^ And this is where I will need to make another post later on in the future.  But I’ll provide a summed up answer here:

Ben is actually right – now hang on before you rage quit (if you haven’t already) and let me finish.

A lot of trans people have this idea that transitioning will make all their problems magically vanish.  They believe that right on the other side of transitioning is this magical world, where everything is bright and shiny forever.  They don’t realize that after you transition, you still need to get a job.  You still need to pay the bills.  You still need to buy groceries and put gas in the car.  You still need to deal with all of life’s hassles.  None of that goes away!  What goes away is the gender disphoria.  But after that you still have to face the day-to-day struggles that everyone else does.

This becomes even more glaringly clear once the person starts losing all the happy and special attention they were receiving in the first few months of transitioning.  People gradually start accepting them as the gender they transitioned to, and all that stardom begins to fade.  I’ve seen so many times that a trans person, after people start to accept them, will start trying to work gender into every discussion so they can still be seen as special just over that alone.  They’ll bring it up in ways that seem forced and may even seem inappropriate (women don’t constantly talk about what it’s like being a woman), in an effort to recapture that recognition they had at the start.  They’ll do plenty of other things as well, and when none of that works, they become depressed and suicidal.  I’ll definitely make another post on this in the future.

Now when I began my transition – and Blaire White of youtube has a similar story – I knew that my transition would eventually be over, that my gender identity would be only one of the many things about me, and that life would go on.  I expected, and even looked forward to, my gender “fading into the background”, so that I would live just like any other woman lives.  This is largely why I went on to successfully transition, and now have a career that I enjoy and live in my own apartment. 

So while calling a trans woman “she” is not going to solve every problem they have, this in no way is an argument not to cal
l a trans woman “she”.

Honestly, how hard is this to do?  It’s literally just 1 word, 1 syllable – and you can even go on thinking and believing whatever you want.

And that covers the basics of gender, identity, and transitioning.